but thats the point. she has NO piece of mind. everything has changed, her world has turned upside down, shes lost, in shock, denial, pain, confused.. it is up to him to make the first steps here-shes in zombie mode. shes not functioning properly. shes not checking the computer to catch him out-shes likely looking for reassurance that hes not doing anything by snooping. WU you obviously have not been in this situation before. its hell, torture. let her do whatever she needs to do even if that means snooping. many therapists would encourage FULL access to everything until trust is regained-IF ever. as well as her being allowed to talk about it whenever she wants and to ask ALL the QS going around in her head
she cant just move on and let it go. that wont happen for a long time. she needs answers and shes in turmoil right now. i do understand how she feels which is y i was so adamant to leave coz i highly doubt these feelings ever fully fade if you stay