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I have tried to make my marriage a good one for 10yrs yet my wife will make coments like " you can leave me for some one better", " I dont know why you are with me since I am always sick". If after 10yrs why has my wife not gotten it? When my wife makes these coments and others like them, it makes me want to give up and not try any more.
When your wife makes statements like that she is fishing for validation from you. It's her manipulative way of getting emotional validation from you without asking outright for it. She says that laymo stuff and you likely respond with something like "don't be silly, I love you that's why I stay with you." You'd be better off ignoring her instead of enabling her whine (if you indeed answer somewhat like my example). She would do well to get some personal counceling along with the couples counceling so that she learns to be more secure in her ownself and less manipulative and more straight forward communicative with you.
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quote]Also I am the only one working and she does not want to try and help out but loves to spend, spend, spend and I do not make that much.
Why do you allow her to spend, spend, spend? You are in control of the money if you are the only one making it. Make it so she can not spend, spend, spend. More evidence of how you enable the very thing that makes you want out. STOP IT.