Hazelnut, your doing great. Here's hoping you find a therapist that works for you, that get's it and can offer some wisdom that works.
And may your man find a way to open his doors on comfort levels so to speak, so he does share stuff with you.
as far as your question do husbands and wives share everything? They ought to yet here I am today with a bag packed for the hospital. My sweetheart thinks its just some blood work but i'll be staying on to see a Dr in emergency due to 'lady town' issues that I have not told him about. I don't want him to worry until I know for sure. So there's me hiding stuff too.
But things like purchases, there is no need to hide unless it is a gift for you that is.
anyway lady, your doing great. Your proactive, your insightful and your kind. No problems there. Your foundation is sound.
May you and yours find a way back to one another.
warm regards
woody