Define supposed to? Are we basing this on what you think you're not allowed to due because of stereotypical Patriarchal values? The same values that treat women as objects? The same values that dictate that women shouldn't vote or own property? That the woman should be subservient to the man? The reason why fathers GIVE the bride away at weddings?
What you are supposed to do is live your own life based upon what you want, not what you are supposed to do or not do according to "tradition".
From your first post it sounds like you're the lazy one, and you want the guys to come to you because you can't be bothered to go after what you want. Seems like a good way for YOU to end up in a so-so relationship to use your own words.