Originally Posted by
IndiReloaded
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You are reading only what you want to. HeartIsAching DID exactly this. You do have choices in your situation. You may not control who you love, but you definitely control what you do about it.
You don't sound like you are able to think longterm about this, so I'll tell you one more thing: Women who leave their husbands in situations like yours (most don't, btw, they lead their affair partners a merry chase--some for years) eventually end up hating their affair partners b/c they got to see them at their worst. In other words, you being her emotional tampon during this period will not endear her to you in the longterm.
Like I said, I'm a realist. People make commitments they can't keep all the time. Divorce happens, especially in todays disposable society. Shrug.
BTW, you can stop trying to sound wiser than you obviously are. I've also been in a situation like this, most similar to HeartIsAching. I'm married for 20 years and never divorced. You might consider actually paying attention to those who have actually had their feet held to the fire. You haven't passed through yet, kiddo.