She is probably being very cautious considering she has a small child, and I think that is very good, but you should talk about the trajectory of your relationship.
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She is probably being very cautious considering she has a small child, and I think that is very good, but you should talk about the trajectory of your relationship.
I've thought about the child aspect too. I respect that. And the talk? Hopefully soon but I'm not quite comfortable pushing it right now.Quote:
Originally Posted by shh!
Like another poster said, I should go with her clues, which are all (overall) good.
Eight weeks? That's all? I agree with Tone: It'll happen when it happens. Chill. Think about it from her perspective: Maybe, last time she went that way, out popped a life-long responsibility. Don't you imagine you'd be considerably more conservative about sleeping with a woman if you were having the babies? Birthcontrol nothwithstanding. It's an emotional thing. There's also this: Maye she has an STD. I went out with a woman a few months before she finally acknowledged that she'd avoided having sex with me all that time -- although she wanted to -- because she had herpes and didn't know how to tell me.
How old is her son? I'm a single mom w/3 small kids and I believe she wants to be with you.... she just can't. If she trust you enough, find a sitter for her. Do all the planning yourself. My BF did that for me and it totally blew me away. He took the time to get me a sitter and make plans for us, because I was just too overwhelmed to do something like that. I don't make a lot of money and I get nothing, financially or otherwise from my ex so it is really hard. Babysitters are expensive. He took the initiative, set everything up and we had a wonderful time all by ourselves. He even introduced me to another friend of his, a single mom, and now we watch each others kids whenever we need a break or want to go out. You might want to try something like that. Take all of the pressure off her. I can tell you from experience how difficult it is to juggle a job, a family, and a new relationship.
I agree w/Shh and would add that one of the topics you might discuss is your feelings about sex. Try to do this w/o pressuring her. Maybe an intimate, yet public place (quiet restaurant for an evening out you've arranged as suggested by someone else), so she won't feel pressed upon (sorry, pun unintended).Quote:
Originally Posted by shh!
The sex thing is very personal. I know ppl who can get their dates into the sack VERY quickly (under 5 dates), which, personally, I think is very fast. For some, sex is related w/more a more intimate connection. For others, it is no big deal. For others its becomes a big deal (that shouldn't , perhaps) if the sex thing is withheld too long. So you need to find out. Ask, IMO.