Nope.
See, modern life has changed the rules of love.
Back when, people married young, and died young.
They also didn't have as much information available to them as they do now, (to dispel sexual myths created by the religious leaders). Nor did they have wide use of contraceptives. They also weren't as connected as we are now, to information or people.
Unfortunately children are still raised to believe outdated cultural norms.
Hell, even nature hasn't ruled out polygamy, or serial monogamy in our species, i.e. we still feel compelled to rub our genitals with other people after the passion fizzles out.
What you suggest is that there's an ultimate monogamous goal for everyone, and that anyone who doesn't experience this, simply hasn't found it yet. My point is, what makes you think that this is even something to be found?
If you believe in the bible we can end this conversation right now.