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I agree Neo that it probably comes from how she views herself, but it could be she's projecting that image onto the girls she feels threatened by or onto her bf.

I still agree with Tone about those warning signs though. If he was trying to contact you that much after just a week of meeting each other, that's pretty obsessive.

Ok, so I went back and re-read a couple things here. Condisering punctuation was lacking I felt I missed some things.

I do still think think you are viewing these other people as how you percieved yourself at one point in time. Because you have done those things at one point you are now thinking he is doing the same (scenario of accusing cheaters when you are the cheater type thing). This all boils down to trust and insecurity. You have been used once before and that's automatically a thought in your head which it should be. This guy is 22 and the fact that he called you so much in such a little amount of time shows he is very aggressive. I would still be leary of his intentions with you but I wouldn't be so over jealous of everything.

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Originally Posted by Mishanya

Hi Jodi

Let me put you at ease at first, no what you experience does not tantamount to a serious mental issue. Many teenagers or people in your age group feel this way. What is the main issue here? The main issue is trust. Do you trust your bf enough to know that if left to his own devices he will not cheat on you? If you do trust him enough then you should stop competing with imaginary opponents each time you are out in public with him. If you don't trust him, then there are really two options. Ask yourself, will you be happy trying to endlessly secure a relationship you may not be able to keep, based on the other answer either 1. Stay with him, but make no mention of this jealousy issue, just prepare yourself that this relationship may end at some point in time, so enjoy it as much as you can. 2. End the relationship and find someone you can trust...

P.S. If your answer is that you don't trust him, ask yourself also what makes you not trust him? Is it his attitude? Is he promiscious as well? Has he ever lied to you?

Hope above helps! :)

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I agree with this post :)

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I agree with this post :)

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Did you just quote and agree with your own post????? LOL

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Originally Posted by Rosebud

Did you just quote and agree with your own post????? LOL

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I agreed with the brilliant reasoning behind it :)

LOL oh Mish what ever will I do with you????

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LOL oh Mish what ever will I do with you????

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You know, I was wandering that myself, ever since you hand cuffed me to that bed :horror:

oh yeah.... how the hell did you get out of that?????

You two are cracking me up, and providing some great imagery. haha.

lol... thanks Circle now I have the feeling like I'm being watched!!!! LOL

Here's hoping it doesn't affect your performance.

LOL, my performance... you make it sound like I'm walking a tight rope... LOL

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oh yeah.... how the hell did you get out of that?????

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I didn't, I'm still here. Hope noone takes advantage of me ):

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LOL, my performance... you make it sound like I'm walking a tight rope... LOL

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The circus brings back bad memories. Why did you do that to me?

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I didn't, I'm still here. Hope noone takes advantage of me ):

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LOL, damn the visions in my head!!!

My voices are saying " my bf wouldn't like me playing with you too much"