How do you separate a shy personality from a quiet one?Quote:
Originally Posted by mini696
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How do you separate a shy personality from a quiet one?Quote:
Originally Posted by mini696
This thread could have been started by me! All this sounds so familiar, eerie actually. I see what all of you are saying, but let me try and put in from my perspective. Let's situate this in a real scenario.
You walk into a nightclub, you've just paid cover, checked your coat and you can hear the music getting louder as you walk into one of the rooms. Thump thump thump goes the bass. You look around, its crowded, you walk upto the bar and order a (insert favorite drink name). You take it, down it, turn around and suddenly see someone you really really want ot talk to. She's dancing on the floor, probably with a few friends. You so want to go and join them...but...**blank**
You are waiting for a subway train, a couple of steps away from you, you see a beautiful, attractive person and you're dying to say something. You make eye contact, she holds it before looking away. What do you go and say to her? What about all the rest of the crowd standing there?
I understand rejection is not easy, I understand you should not care about the rest of the people out there, heck, my friend even made me read emails by some guy name daniel defranco or something (which all made sense), but in the end, at the moment of truth, when you're standing facing someone looking directly into your eyes, expecting you to say something, and your mind feels emptier than Siberia in winter, when every legible thought is gone, when your mouth is dry so that even when you try to speak, all that comes out is a hoarse whisper...what the **** do you do???
I'm sure all this sounds very confused, but this is haze that I have to live through in my attempts to find, and I hate saying this, simple companionship. It's not even about sex, its just about being confident enough to follow through on your thoughts and actions.
Ah well, if anyone has any ideas, great...if not, then such is life.
Cheers
All I can say is welcome to the existence you end with when you're reared in a culture that promotes suspicion at the expense of trust.
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Originally Posted by whaywardj
Explain....
:nerd:
Why are any of us ever nervous about meeting strangers?
That is true. I like your sayings Hayward.Quote:
Originally Posted by whaywardj
I am not nervous. I seem to be annoyed when I meet strangers. I do have a tendancy to think everyone is stupid though. I think shy people over think the negative consequences. They never think of the good that might come from the interacation.Quote:
Originally Posted by whaywardj
Are you serious? do you really need him too? Ask yourself...what do you think of someone when they come up to you and ask you for a few dollars because they have no money for a bus home. You will have your answer why you or others probably would hesitate to ask someone for money in that position.Quote:
Originally Posted by Chronos
Yes, well, you're a refreshing exception to the rule, OV. And I, too, thought an explanation was a ridiculous thing to ask for. But, it's like this Chronos: If you weren't predisposed to be threatened by strangers, you wouldn't be apprehensive over introducing yourself to a girl.
I totally agree OV - it is stupid; I am stupid. I know it, but my instinct doesn't want to listen. What's even more stupid is that we cannot perceive that it's not remotely likely for anything bad to happen anyway. Guess I gotta keep trying :)
A shy person will not put themselves in a position to fail. A quiet person will at least ask someone out (they may just whisper it).Quote:
Originally Posted by Only-virgins
Simple; Just start dating guys..............Quote:
Originally Posted by Mike