Originally Posted by whaywardj
How about this, girls: Your doubtful questions don't HAVE any answers. (And they really don't, since they're all based on "what if" hypotheticals.) Nor, likely, do they have any meaning beyond providing a conduit for your minds to behave as discharging centers for the tensions your feelings are generating. The thoughts aren't important, in other words. That they, like pressure valves, spill off tension IS.
Why not just let the questions come and go as they will without attaching any importance to their having an answer or not? Why not let go of all your efforts to understand or control something that is unknowable and out of your control? Why not just be in the present, calmly observing and taking stock of what really is and isn't in your actual here and now?