Starbuck why did you and the music exec break up in he first place? Sorry if you have posted about this before.
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Starbuck why did you and the music exec break up in he first place? Sorry if you have posted about this before.
No worries, Dasein. I have, but I'll just be lazy and cut and quote from my other thread. Ah, the beauty of cut and paste :)Quote:
Originally Posted by Dasein [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
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Thanks Starbuck.
What are the residual feelings? Did you do the "list" of pros and cons for him?
He sounds like a lovely man but I always believe that we get the "doubts" for a reason and to never discount them. It's when we ignore our gut feeling that things start to go a bit pear shaped.
In truth, by the time he kicks the bucket, you may be perfectly fine with being alone for a change.
I'm just sayin'....
I feel sorry for the guy. If a girl would have doubts in me I'd always prefer if she'd talk about it.
I certainly don't blame you, Lipp. I wasn't good at communicating my doubts to him. Although I do have to admit, that during the nine months or so we were having some obvious problems in the relationship. Everything wasn't hunky dory towards the end.Quote:
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I think that I was afraid of opening that can of worms and hoping I would just come through the other side of the doubts on my own. It is a regret of mine that we didn't talk more about it.
I would say that my residual feelings are that I care very deeply about him, but still have some doubts. I would like to give him another shot to see where it goes, but I'm terrified of breaking his heart again.Quote:
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I didn't make the list yet, but I'll definitely try it as an interesting exercise.
Tough one. I don't know. I met a guy that was 21 years older but he did not look it. You could easily take over 15 years off his age. Many people did not believe his age. Most people in his family lived until their 90's. His mother and father are still alive. He was healthy. You can always date when you get older too....just like he is doing now.
My bf doesn't look is age either. I still can't believe his age. He is also much healthier than I am. He'll probably outlive me unless he gets in an accident. ;)
Take a chance in life. You only have one to live.
Cut all contact with the slob.
Forget about the old guy, too. You are very beautiful and very sweet, you will have no trouble meeting a man your age. No need to settle. Age is a big deal to you obviously (hey it would be to me, too) so that's never going to change. Patience is rewarded.
Especially for relationships.Quote:
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But only when you feel stuck. When you don't know which way to go, you don't know if the positives outweigh the negatives. This thing puts everything into perspective very quickly.
Hmmm. Well, isn't this fellow nearly the age of thinking of retirement? Or already is? Most ppl start considering this in their 50s.
At 37, you are still in pretty prime productive years. You've got another good 10 - 15 years ahead of you, even if you retire fairly early. At almost 60 for him, I don't see you two on similar paths this way. Also, I can easily imagine a health issue happening for him that could quickly curtail your professional life. In case these thoughts hadn't occurred.
Where's CAM these days? He's of an age w/you, SB, and a successful professional.
Just sayin'. ;)
He is technically retired (he took a retirement package from his other job) but still works at another company. His job is his life. He absolutely loves what he does, a quality I admire in him greatly.Quote:
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Yeah, there aren't many men who can say that. I always think that an enormously attractive quality, too. In fact, that is what attracted me to my husband.
Well, maybe you should tell us a bit more about why he's an EX, then?
There are other things about him, minor personality issues, that created some doubts as well. Plus our sex life seemed to be more comfort than passion. All of these things seem to be issues that could be resolved eventually, but coupled with the age difference were enough to create lots of nagging doubts.Quote:
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