So your problem is the wedding, not the marriage?Quote:
Originally Posted by Dave Pearce [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
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So your problem is the wedding, not the marriage?Quote:
Originally Posted by Dave Pearce [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
Yes, and I appreciate that.Quote:
Originally Posted by Pettit-Papillon [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
At the time I felt my ex wife and I were entering marriage with our eyes wide open but only in hindsight we probably had expectations that were different from the reality.
If I were to marry again, I would want a quick registry affair, not the whole 9 yards that costs way over the top again. I'd rather see the money go towards a future house together.
I just don't want my girlfriend to have the same expectation and be disappointed.
I don't see myself as having a problem.Quote:
Originally Posted by lovesjoyajm [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
I just feel that it's the everyday things that are important. Being there for each other, supporting and comforting each other and loveing each other, love and affection.
But what I would say to young couples now is that I'd rather see the money on a big wedding go towards a home together instead.
But it's not that You pay a lot of money for the wedding and You get nothing. There are always presents and mostly people give always money as presents so sometimes it's like You didn't even pay for the wedding. You didn't that that way?Quote:
Originally Posted by Dave Pearce [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
DON'T MARRY IT'S NOT WORTH IT!
yeah, unless you're going to have kids. Then it's worth it.
I suggest you do nothing. You explained yourself years ago. Maybe you can reiterate that point. It's not unfair because she knew how you felt about marriage long ago. It's not fair to you that she has a problem with comprehension.Quote:
Originally Posted by Dave Pearce [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
Not for the wedding I sent to in Malibu...Quote:
Originally Posted by Pettit-Papillon [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
Of course they could marry without a wedding.
Of course that plays a part if they want to have children (which is what most young women want). Unless the woman is stupid. Financial security is an important aspect of family planning. Are you saying women shouldn't hope/expect to be financially secure before bringing children into the world?Quote:
Originally Posted by Dave Pearce [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
Anyway, you focused entirely on the financial aspect, when the age was equally important. Older women generally have already HAD their children (or determined they don't want any), so they are less likely to want to form a marital relationship to have them. Financially secure women don't want you for your money, so they are less likely to want to form a marital relationship for financial security. Tie them together, and you will end up with a woman who is unlikely to want to marry you.
You are allowed to not wish to marry, but you shouldn't expect to monopolize the time of a woman who wants marriage. If your issue is really the cost of a wedding, just tell her you aren't interested in having another big wedding. You can always elope. I think that is reasonable.