Me and my man are going through something like this except I am the one with the issues not him. A lot of trauma, and such. I'm still trying to figure all of this stuff out. Good luck man. I hope you and your girlfriend get better.
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Me and my man are going through something like this except I am the one with the issues not him. A lot of trauma, and such. I'm still trying to figure all of this stuff out. Good luck man. I hope you and your girlfriend get better.
Is it possible to tell me if you are on any medications for the anxiety and depressive problems?Quote:
Originally Posted by God Eros [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
I know you didn't ask me, but I'm on meds for clinical depression. Is there anything you want to know about the medication?Quote:
Originally Posted by nardAJC [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
yeah, does it help!?Quote:
Originally Posted by candle23 [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
Also, in the past, possible past relationships/experiences, do you always come 'clean' about having depression with a partner/prospective partner....Quote:
Originally Posted by candle23 [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
I have depression myself.....:(
Pills don't work.
All they do is prohibit the firing of certain neuro transmitters, thus covering up the symptoms.
Meds don't take care of the actual problem.
Of course it's easier to push pills as to go through 2 years of active counseling, therapy and workshops.
You feel this applies to all psychiatric disorders, or just depression, social anxiety etc?Quote:
Originally Posted by Yggdrasil [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
What are we talking about in this thread?Quote:
Originally Posted by nardAJC [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
If used properly in a well designed and executed therapeutic approach... pills are intended to alleviate enough tension in the mind so that the patient can learn how to overcome their problems.Quote:
Originally Posted by Yggdrasil [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
Somewhere along the lines, the medications were given more importance than the counseling.
Fluoxetine didn't help me to minimize the anxiety I felt... it just calmed me enough to where I faced my fears over and over again so I could learn.
Thanks for the advice and yes I am seeing a therapist and psychiatrist. The medicine did lead me to attempt suicide (Saved by my girlfriend) but that was a lone case and dropped the medicine the next day. I have talked her into talking to her parents about it and she is going to her first therapy session the 6th. I will look into the other treatments you said.Quote:
Originally Posted by Henry123 [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
I agree with this, and will be avoiding fights big or little now. I like the bolded part.Quote:
Originally Posted by Rollerderby [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
The bolded part is true and the part about being angry over the rape isn't true. I get angry on how she deals with things and how she acts around other people. To clarify after I she told me she was raped I automatically became protective. So I don't like it when it is her a few girls but mostly guys hanging out without me (not sure if this is insecurities or what) and one fight we had was when we were playing beer pong and to distract the other team (all guys) she turns around and shakes her ass at them. I told her to quit being a whore (Trigger) and that led to a fight.Quote:
Originally Posted by NewToLove [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
I didn't take offense to it, I agree with what you said and it is possible with the Knight in Shining armor syndrome. I would just rather stay together if at all possible.Quote:
Originally Posted by ecojeanne [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
I was naturally shy as a child and when I became more outgoing and charismatic, I still had deep feelings of insecurities. You can't say a mental disorder doesn't exist unless you actually suffer from it. And the difference between a mental disorder and being shy is that one effects the way you live your life.Quote:
Originally Posted by ecojeanne [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
We were generally speaking 100% when we first started dating. But as time went on and things got more stressful in our outside lives we started dropping. That is why I feel we should stay together and help each other.Quote:
Originally Posted by vashti [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
Thank you and I hope it works out even though we are emotionally unhealthy despite what you say.Quote:
Originally Posted by LoveFish [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
I have been to that site but the online chat isn't helpful because it is always busy. I will check into that medicine btw. As stated above we have therapists it is just finding time to go because we both work over 40 hour weeks.Quote:
Originally Posted by Aeradalia [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
I hope we can figure something out.Quote:
Originally Posted by Yggdrasil [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
I was on Lexapro and it worked to a limit then I built up an immunity instead of going to a larger dose I just stopped.Quote:
Originally Posted by nardAJC [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
Ya this is true.Quote:
Originally Posted by Aeradalia [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
Yep. The drugs help them care *just enough* to off themselves. :horror:Quote:
Originally Posted by vashti [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
Drugs + therapy/support >>> drugs alone.
I think right now she wants someone who she can lean on for emotional support. Maybe she is too overwhelm at times and cant come up with the words to say or unable to speak (like with panic disorders).
I also feel she needs to have some sense of control. And probably better to let her talk when she is ready to speak about her traumatic experience.
Just to note. Every time she tells you wants wrong she is re living the events that happen to her at the moment. You just have to be careful not to set off any of her triggers/anchors.
My point exactly.Quote:
Originally Posted by Aeradalia [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
Unfortunately to many therapists and patients rely solely on the meds. That's never going to work.
I don't endorse pill pushers.
Entirely and totaly correctQuote:
Originally Posted by vashti [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
(OMFG vashti and I agree on something)......