Sex once a month is acceptable?

Yeah there was a lot wrong with what you said.

the first part about it not being the most important was good. then it got bad and bad went to worse. you should have kept talking about why it's important: makes you feel loved, sexy, wanted, desired, appriciated. then you should of talked about how the lack of sex is getting to you. you're irritated, easily annoyed, you feel unloved. then you should of talked about why you had so much then it dropped off. why? you should have asked her if there was something you're not doing or doing wrong? you should have asked her if there is something you can do to get her to want to have sex anymore. you should have mentioned that when he makes 'funny' jokes about you not getting laid that it's hurtful and not funny! then you should have talked about what to do about the lack of sex. you should NOT have demaned more sex or else you're looking elsewhere.

Does she take the pill? If she does and if she gained weight through the pill it might be a real strong one and they take away a womens libido. I don't take it anymore and my libido has increased since then.

I wouldn't want to be with a partner who does not want to have sex with me - or just once a month and if I was you I'd leave her if it does not change. She should be with someone who has a libido that is as low as hers.

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Originally Posted by eva1 [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

Nothing wrong with sex once a month at all, !

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Are you for real?!!!!!

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Originally Posted by boobaa [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

How much other intimacy you have, do you kiss/hug/cuddle? If not, then it might also be that she doesn't have feelings for you anymore, she just uses you for comfort because she doesn't have anyone else. Girls are creatures of comfort, which ****ing sucks. And that "Ooooh, you thought you were having sex tonight. DENIED!!!" is just cruel.

Dump her. Tell her to get her lazy ass moving, end of story, hopefully its a good lesson for her. Because obviously you aren't happy in relationship.

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Kissing and hugging barely happens. A kiss and hug hello, a kiss and hug goodbye and "cuddling" to her means I sit on the couch and she leans against me while we watch something stupid on TV. I absolutely hate that. It's not cuddling, but me being used as a pillow. It's obnoxious.

And when I hear her cackling over denying me sex, it doesn't make me feel good. It's irritating and it's hurtful. Being turned down by a stranger at a party is a lot different than being turned down by your own girlfriend of almost two years. It's not like I can pretend she's a lesbian or anything. It makes me feel unattractive. It's like her and I are friends who occasionally have sex and it's disheartening. Plus, I don't like feeling like a bad guy for asking. I hate getting told to stop asking for sex, like I'm doing something wrong.

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Does she take the pill? If she does and if she gained weight through the pill it might be a real strong one and they take away a womens libido. I don't take it anymore and my libido has increased since then.

I wouldn't want to be with a partner who does not want to have sex with me - or just once a month and if I was you I'd leave her if it does not change. She should be with someone who has a libido that is as low as hers.

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She was on the pill when we first got together and her sex drive was absolutely fine. Hell, it was almost too much at some points! Then summer 2009 it just went it. Yes, she has put on weight but I have too. I've been hitting the gym everyday since the fall to lose it and she has been hitting the gym once a week. As much as she complains, she's not making any attempt to lose any weight.

I'm fed up with it. And I was propositioned by two different girls over the summer to have sex and I turned them down, being the decent human being I am. I'm starting to think about calling them back.

Oh... and sometimes if I ask and she gets annoyed she'll say something to the effect of "fine, I'll take my pants off and bend over." It's so tiring to hear me attempts get mocked and degraded. Hearing her say something like that REALLY makes me get in the mood.

Cut the cord, NOW. This is the kiss of death, just end it before she does(or cheat on her, since you're a first class asshole,lol). This is always the beginning of the end, end it now and spare the two of you a lot of bitterness and resentment.

I actually want to defend her on this issue partially because it's obvious she has some issues. I had issues too and was having trouble having sex with my girlfriend (frickin' gorgeous, hottest one I've had) and they were pretty much internal (felt like I didn't deserve it, etc.). She coped with it for a while instead of speaking her mind on it, and it just built up resentment until she was ready to let loose the floodgates and tell me how everything was my fault. Something girls seem almost trained to do.

Like they mentioned above, just lay it all out there. Let her know how you feel and let her know you are serious. You've let it build up and now you are very resentful. This is the wrong way to go about it. If she doesn't have an answer or whatever, say that you need some space and will be breaking contact with her. It's what you feel like doing anyway. If she doesn't get off her ass and running at this, then I think you are doing you both a favor. And I mean space as in don't talk, call, etc. for upwards to a couple months. If she is calling and begging, stay firm to it and tell her that this is not the right way to go about it. You are resenting her and you want to be with somebody else, this is not the way to go about it with a relationship.

You don't need to break up and write things off for good to fix things with you two, and if you really care and love her, you will consider this. You think you have thought of everything but you haven't tried this yet.

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Originally Posted by Punk18 [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

Oh... and sometimes if I ask and she gets annoyed she'll say something to the effect of "fine, I'll take my pants off and bend over." It's so tiring to hear me attempts get mocked and degraded. Hearing her say something like that REALLY makes me get in the mood.

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Dude!

That's your chance!

Take it!

Then give her a good cock slap when you're finished and smear that sperm all over her face.

i agree with Fras, show her who's got the PENIS in a relationship.

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Originally Posted by Sonrisa [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

i agree with Fras, show her who's got the PENIS in a relationship.

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Ah, Indig.

How I've missed you.

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Originally Posted by IndiReloaded [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

1) Yes.
2) Yes. Sounds like you are sexually incompatible.

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I agree with the above^

It sounds like you two are sexually incompatible. It's not uncommon for people to have low sex drives and if they do you can't change them. It's best to find someone more suitable, make their and your life easier.

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Originally Posted by Spades_ [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

lol, wat are u saying, that asian girls are lazy and have no sex drive?

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I didn't say that. You did.

Well, it had been driving me crazy so I sent her an e-mail about it last night (since I couldn't sleep). I told her how I feel. I told her that it's upsetting to constantly be rejected by her. I told her how I don't feel wanted or loved by her. Then I gave her an ultimatum. I told her that we need to have sex once a week. Not every two weeks or three weeks, but once a week and if she can't agree to this, I'm going to move on. I said that I'm not going to stay in a relationship where there is no romance. It's not fair to me.

She told me she has to think about it. If you have to take time to think about this, then it's obviously not that important, IMO.

I think sex problems are almost always indicative of other problems. It sounds to me like she's not really into you any more, since she's not even very affectionate outside of the bedroom.

Is it such a tragedy to break up with someone? I don't think so. She sounds mean to me and laziness is just disgusting. Do the right thing and break up with her. Don't cheat on her.

I'd say prep to be single.

I'd agree with you that since she's "thinking about it" says a lot about how hard she's willing to try. I doubt even if she does agree that she'll keep it up not to mention you'll feel just as unwanted as you did before because she doesn't wannnnt to pounce on you; she merely is because you made her (ie ultimadum). But likely she won't even agree.

I think you should dump her first.