It's not the blame game. Sure, there are plenty of people who want to cast blame onto everyone around them and refuse to take responsibility for the decisions they made.
But what about the child that grows up in a sexually abusive household? Many of them grow into sexual abusers in the future. The child didn't choose this. It is a learned behavior. The same way a physically abused child might later become an abuser. It's not 100%, but the behaviors we encounter growing up set a tone for us later.
I don't blame my father for putting me in the position I am in right now. I DO hold him responsible for causing the initial rift with his insatiable appetite for voyeuristic online activities and the casual way in which he spent money on these activities instead of supporting our family. His personal decisions have not had any positive effect on my family, the only exception being that I learned to be self-reliant at an earlier age than most.
There comes a time where we need to stop whining about our f*cked up past and learn from it. It is difficult though. Some people don't have the emotional or mental capacity to push past some of their demons or break down those walls by themselves. It takes immense mental strength and clarity to be able to see yourself and accept everything you are.