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and when i try to talk to her about it i get really mad because i keep thinking of the potential she has and how she's throwing it all away
just for a few nights of fun
and then she translates that into my bitching and getting angry at her
and me "judging" her...
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she's not yours to protect. you are not her dad. you are not her man. you are her buddy, so she expects you to watch her back and not judge her.
if you are not okay with this arrangement, then it needs to end. why would you want to be romantically with a crazy clubbing girl who does sexual stuff
with other guys? The most you should do is be nice to her. Don't get yourself emotionally attached.
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She never used to be like this ...
ugh i think im too attatched to the old her...
i just want that back :/
i know she can change
she just doesnt have a reason for it
and we were going so well until she decided to go clubbing...
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After reading your thread, it brought back memories of something I went through myself. I was crazy about my best friend but he just wanted to be friends. Now he did a lot of stupid stuff, got into a lot of drugs, and by me trying to take responsibility and help him, I got into trouble myself. Nothing like with the law, but ignoring my own needs, which in the end destroyed me mentally. I was the go to girl because he knew he could depend on me knowing how much I cared about him. I was constantly pushing my own feelings aside and putting his first.
My opinion, don't forget about yourself and the hurt your going through. In the end, you may just be someone for her to lean on and make her feel better about herself.
BUT, there are always exceptions. If you truly believe that things can work for the two of you without being mentally abusive, then by all means, do what you can to prove to her that your there to stay whereas the others are just one page out of her life.
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You are annoying and will never learn.
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You aren't going to change her. She'll have to change herself. She isn't your problem and you need to realize that. No one is going to encourage you to "fix" her or be her savior. It doesn't work like that. She chooses to do what she does because it's fun to her.