Attention whore and insensitive jerk sound like very accurate descriptions. The more I think about it, the way he talks about his divorce should have been a big clue to that! I would think there are issues there when anyone claims the ex was "all wrong" and they were "all right".
I think my real problem is his attitude about things, and it really shows itself in the way he handles the situation with that girl. He is very cute and EXTREMELY charming (everyone knows this and says it all the time) and he eats up attention- his ego must be more important than maintaining any type of quality relationship. OMG- I just had a revelation.... now that I think about it.. one of his primary complaints about his ex wife was that she was "always accusing him of cheating when he wasn't".. he says she was always looking over her shoulder waiting for him to cheat and wouldnt just 'trust' him.. im starting to wonder about this now... According to him, she eventually cheated and left him and it devastated him. When I first heard the story, I thought maybe the wife was unreasonable and insecure but if this is how he acted then I can understand..
I just wish I had figured this out before now, because now I actually have feelings for him and had some sort of hope for this relationship. But I know for a fact I dont want to deal with this type of behavior either.