I've been with my boyfriend for 7 and a half months now. Our relationship is great, we've never had any problems and we are always happy together. We are both virgins and have never openly discussed having sex until recently...
Last Friday it got pretty intense when we were alone. He started touching me but it was definitely more passionate then it had ever been. At one point after that while we were laying together he said to me, "can I ask you a question?" and I said "of course, what?" and he said to me, "do you want to have sex with me?" and I told him that I had actually thought about it before and that I would. Not meaning necessarily at that moment but in general, yes. Then he talked about various ways that we could protect ourselves. But then as soon as I got home that night he later told me that he thought we should wait and think about this more. And then he told me how he only asked because he thought he would ask at some point anyway. But then the next day after that I felt like I should be honest about how I felt. I told him how Friday night I had the most intense feeling of desire and that I didn't know it was possible to want someone so badly. He then told me he wanted me too but that he contained himself and that we should wait and how he doesn't want to ruin our relationship by having sex because he doesn't know what effect it will have.
He keeps telling me how he wants to wait, and I respect that, but at the same time it confused me because it seems like he wants to so badly but he is saying we should wait? He wants us to think about it more and he said further on we could think about it and he wouldn't want either of us to regret anything.
When I'm with him it seems like he wants to have sex though. I couldn't imagine it hurting our relationship at this point but he doesn't want to risk that. But our relationship is solid and we are both serious/committed and loyal. I'm trying to figure out why he asked me if I wanted to if he doesn't want to or isn't ready yet, especially since after he asked he thought of ways we could do it and then totally went to the other extreme later that night by saying we should wait. He's never said anything about waiting for marriage. Could he just be anxious about having sex for the first time?*