I haven't read your previous threads but from the description above, I get a sense of major disconnect as opposed to aggression or abuse.
Are you stonewalling her while she's actively trying to connect with you?
You seem to be describing a numb relationship devoid of passion and joy. You don't say what you have done about it so far, unless you've already mentioned it in other posts. How does the status quo sit with your partner? Is this a problem for her? Does she bring it up, has she made any attempts to address it? for instance if she has tried to have heart to heart conversations about your emotional distance or about any other matter really, or gotten tickets to a game/concert you would enjoy together, took you out for a night in town, tried one of your fantasies in bed, read a book/magazine/ watched something on TV you'd like just to discuss with you later and you were still stonewalling her and then you said "I love you but I'm not in love with you" on top of it, it would be adding insult to the injury and yeah that would count as emotional abuse.
why did you say "I love you but I'm not in love with you" to her anyways, how did it come up?
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