Originally Posted by
The Nice Guy849
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im surprised nobody got personal with me...
ive BEEN trying to be a *good guy* with confidence and all of that bullshit. My ranting came from the fact with the whole competition with the jerks, like how would a good guy be able to get a girl over a jerk(DO NOT tell me to not worry about this over the very strong hold they have over girls) who already has a hold over a girl which you wouldn't know?? how would a good guys'confidence beat out a jerks who would DEFFINATELY be more outgoing because of his lack of care to say anything to anyone??? it's things like that that made me question about it and i'm NOT waiting for the whole *nice guys get better long term relationships in the end* because i feel that is bullcrap and insulting because were basically getting the leftovers of those jerks.
when did i ever say everything i do is right?(and deserved payback?) stuck in my own world? my posts have been a result of the mental aspect to improve myself. i keep asking myself the main question *how can a guy like me get a girl besides the jerk pulling her in again?*where i feel like even if i do make some changes, they would run to those guys ANYWAY...i am just not sure of myself, i have had some BAD experiences with girls cheating on me with jerks(surprise, surprise =/) and i never got closure from ANY of those relationships, just leaving me so they could do *things* together, well i dont think many people would really understand just HOW tough it is to change after stuff guys like me go through(my fault or not), idk, i guess im just a tremendous mess, the more i think about it the more i just imagine the girl im talking to saying how they want a good guy and all that then getting called by a jerk *friend* to talk with her laughing constantly and just forgets about me =/
i just dont feel like i will get anything out of self reflection if this kind of thinking keeps up...this is my main thinking problem with girls and my main insecurity/jealousy, the jerks who keep attracting them =/