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Final update:
Unfortunately it seems Bonfire was right :( I rang her on Wednesday Night to ask her for a coffee for after she finished work on Saturday but she was driving (legit, I heard it) lol so she said she'd text me back which she didn't, I saw her at work on Friday (I was in the back checking a few things, I wasn't actually working but she was) and she apologised for not texting back and she was still happy and energetic around me which is good, at least we're keeping the somewhat of a friendship we have at work because I really enjoy talking to her, since it's a casual job at 19 my shifts vary each week but she's probably the person I feel closest too at work even though I don't talk to her the most at work. But anyway I asked again if she wanted too tommorow but she said 'I'll see what I'm doing' and that'd she'd 'contact' me but she didn't. I think I would have preferred a yes or no rather than an assumed no. I know it's all done though, at least my part is. I've done all I can on the offensive, if she wants it it's gonna be her contacting me now which I doubt. But I'm not going to be angry to her at work or anything, it is what it is.
I don't think she has had a boyfriend in the last couple of years, possibly ever and she seems to be a girl who would rather be single even though I believe she could get almost any guy she wants (Physically she is one of the most attractive girls personally I know), her best friends all have boyfriends I think so I don't know if it's her parents or what. I've seen how she acts at clubs and she isn't a slut or just a girl who hooks up with guys every weekend so I don't know to be honest. I'm not saying that if she wasn't like that I'd definitely be in but I think it's more than just her not liking 'me' personally, but I'm not going to find any of this out. If I see her at work I'll still talk to her I normally do but at the same time I know I can't wait any longer and if I do see another girl I like, I'll go for it.
It just sucks because this is the first time I've asked a girl out and really went for it and I failed but I guess that is just a life experience.
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hey don't be sad!! You did an awesome job;) Of course not every girl is gonna say yes, maybe she just wasn't into you, maybe she didn't want to make it awkward at work or maybe she's lesbian, i mean it can be anything! regardless, people gets "no" all the time. Some of my friends were 20 or 22 when they had their first relationship, some were 14 and others 17. there's no time limit or code here. don't worry! its stupid of her to let you down gently and not directly but i also do that to guys, i just dont want to hurt anyone. and remember its not about tactic, its about the flow of it and the mutual conversations. you may have put your mind on a pressure here, imagining her as your first girlfriend=) remember, she had no idea of this. to her, your probably just some guy at work. so hold your horses and enjoy being young, you sound like great bf material but girls really do sense insecurity/tactic games/nervousness, etc. and its never the way to get a love in your life. the nervousness can be really cute, but its no fun realising the guy is obsessing about hanging out. (not saying you're obsessed, but very eager). but you took the first step and its nerve-wracking so be proud and take it as one of those shitty life lessons;)
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I was very eager but at the same time I still gave her space, I didn't talk to her every day, didn't ask her out a million times. I only asked her out twice bascially. I've never been nervous around her, even on the phone I know I sounded confident enough to hide any nerves (I just kept talking the first time so I didn't pause so it became awkward). I think the waiting times might have been a bad move. Like getting her number and asking her out three weeks later, then asking her out again another three weeks later. I still talked to her when I saw her at work but after asking her out the first time I didn't talk to her for about 2 weeks due to giving her space but at the same time if she ever was interested to do it, she would have committed to the coffee at least since it was only about 10-15 minutes of her time.
But now honestly I'm over her surprisingly, maybe because I haven't had to see her since last Friday has helped but my mind has just clicked off her since it looks like she has no interest in me which is surprising since I thought I'd be pretty upset for a little bit but it is what it is, I think also that I'm trying to pursue another girl is helping so I don't have time to dwell on this girl and what happened so much.
At least we'll still be cool at work, I haven't made it awkward because I do like talking to her, it wasn't a case of pretending just to 'get in her pants' or anything so we'll see what happens, looks like an interesting year for me all round :p
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Well you sure are good at giving space, I'll give you that!! Hehe=) Let's just conclude with the fact she didn't want to! It doesn't matter: good luck with the new girl! I'm usually like that too; as soon as I sense the guy is not interested - and you don't see them everyday, the sadness doesn't really last that long=)
