I am afraid if you confront her then you've facing issues of privacy and she will only get more upset at you.Quote:
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I am afraid if you confront her then you've facing issues of privacy and she will only get more upset at you.Quote:
Originally Posted by AlphaPrime [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
My pops said that to me once.Quote:
Originally Posted by AlphaPrime [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
I really wish he were angry at me at the time. Disappointed just seems way worse.
I think you are in a world of hurt bro and all you can do is try and get out with civility intact for the kids.
You can probably stick a fork in this one.
at this point it's not about her not trusting you, it's about her wanting to feel romanced by another man. no matter what you do she is no longing for him.Quote:
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is that compassion i read?Quote:
Originally Posted by Anturo [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
Dude privacy issues?Quote:
Originally Posted by Sonrisa [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
6 years married.
Not like he hacked her account she left it there open for him.
dude, would you want someone to read your private stuff?Quote:
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Shhhh Dont tell anyone.Quote:
Originally Posted by Sonrisa [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
I've got a soft heart for the kids.
If I had any private stuff sure.Quote:
Originally Posted by Sonrisa [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
My wife and I share email accounts and stuff.
I know all her passwords she knows all mine.
I dont check up on her because I dont have to.
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Good article.Quote:
Originally Posted by Sonrisa [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
Might be too little too late for this one though?
i don't think it's ever too late. she wants excitement, emotions than he needs to give it to her.
You should start by suggesting to your wife that you two start having an open marriage, free to sleep with whomever you want. Then tell her what you found, and say something along the lines of, "You're not attracted to me anymore and you're not going to forgive me, but we have the kids to think about, so if you don't want to work through this we should just free ourselves to sleep with whomever we want, just always use protection and not do it in this house?" Don't raise your voice, but speak very matter-of-factly like you've thought through every angle of it already and it will actually work. Her reaction will be very telling.
Yeah.....that's not true.Quote:
Originally Posted by Sonrisa [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
Hell, she might of even left her fb open on PURPOSE in hopes that you'd look thru it. People play twisted games like that all the time. That would be revenge...
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Originally Posted by AlphaPrime [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
Owning up to your mistakes isn't enough sometimes.
You think just because *YOU* realized where you went wrong she is supposed to accept it, smile and move on? Well if she had truly loved you the answer would be yes. She's not a very forgiving/loving person.
So you decided to breach her trust yet again going through her private business...
And after digging: you found dirt: big shock right?
Nope. So what to do?
It's called communication for a reason.
If she throws it back in your face about the time you made out with the chick:
she has an issue with dropping the past and likes to let shit linger (as most women do)
Since you're married and have children: your children are a priority as is
your relationship. Both of you fudged it up. The both of you have to fix it.
Do you know how to address how you feel so that she can understand?
I believe for some yes. But I don't think you can without outside help. FYI you can see if either of your benefits have an option for counselling (most have SOME coverage). Or alternatievly seek out a grad student who is doing practicum, their rates are generally much less by about half the price, I found. They are also professionally monitored as well so they can't just be any old somebody.Quote:
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