thanks everyone for your inputs...
I hope devon is right here, about him lying about this specific issue only. I hope that's the case. This guy keeps telling me over and over again he wants something more than a physical relationship, and is refusing to have sex until I learn to trust him.
It interests me that so many of you assume that having sex is a definite occurance given a certain age! Its possible in your life and upbringing that sex is normal given past a certain age. But in many other cultures, without sounding disrespectful, its normal to put off sex until after marriage, and in the meantime fool around only...may be give hand jobs and oral. Anyway, like i said so many times before, i wasn't asking him IF he had sex simply because i really thought he hadn't, but rather i was expecting the answer to be "yes ", and then we would venture into other sex topics like what he likes and doesn't, etc. but his lie sort of caught me off guard.