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She's a grown woman and the harsh reality of her marriage was that he was a freeloading loser with no ambition who never respected her feelings or opinions. She knows this yet she still grieves for the marriage which, in my opinion, is silly.
There is ALWAYS a flip side. If all she feels is negativity towards her husband, she would have kicked him to the curb A LONG TIME AGO. She has no children which should make divorce a lot easier; still very difficult, but a hell of a lot easier. It doesn't make any sense for someone to not be excited and celebrate divorcing a total loser, cheater, freeloading douchebag. Why is she so utterly depressed? Well the thing is she still see's the good in what the marriage was. She see's some good in her husband. Although she may only be venting to you the negative side to him, i'm sure there is also a positive side to him as well. That positive side is the part she keeps hidden from you and think about when she is alone at night crying herself to sleep in her bed. The positive side of him is what she is grieving the loss of. Do not wait for her to come around..... she needs a lot of time to get over it and the worst thing would be for you to end up being her rebound. She is an emotional rollercoaster and has a lot of baggage she needs to deal with first before loading her baggage onto someone else (you).