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I've realised that i wasn't being completely clear about the frequency of events, etc. He goes clubbing like once or twice a week, i go sometimes but i don't really like going and i feel the fact that i trust him enough to let him go says something about his character. I didn't mean to make it sound like he is always hanging out with girls alone, that's not the truth. He went to a club alone with his close girl friend 3 times over a 4 month period. He does have heaps of friends and acquaintances, so it's understandable that nearly every time he goes to the shops he runs into someone and may have a chat with them. He has only mentioned on a couple of occasions over our entire relationship that his had a girl friend over briefly. Rarely does he talk about the same girl, i'd think if he was cheating he would narrow it down to one or two rather than like 10 or more that would make it way easier for me to find out.. it's illogical.
Sorry again, but that's what players do.. they juggle women and they do it well. Hence why they can play because they appear so sincere and open and they draw women in. I'm not saying that your bf is still playing, but the evidence indicates that he is even if he says he has never cheated. He won't let you talk to his brother and he makes excuses why you shouldnt "rock the boat." Sketchy that. So is having women in his room behind closed doors with music playing loudly.
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Maybe i am suddenly feeling the need to defend him and myself against some of these posts because we made up today after a fight, or because i don't want to believe the worst, i don't know. His been cheated on before by his only other love, his long term gf from a few years ago, he said his never cheated, he was raised by grandparents who taught him great morals, i just don't think he could do that to me or anybody. I guess aside from the 'do you think he cheated?' question i obviously projected, i was just wondering if this is normal among many guys and what their girlfriends let their guys get away with. There was a 1% of doubt i had, but i realise now that people who have been exposed to cheating are going to think the worst, and those who haven't and have been in similar situations that were innocent are going to think the best.
Sorry again but that would be called projection. I myself have never been cheated on nor had the uneasiness of a sketchy boyfriend who spends copious amounts of time with women one on one. My observations are based on the two threads and what you've shared alone. Not prejudiced by personal experience.