To Stay in Marriage or Leave

Thanks for comments . I know lots of people think getting married to someone after only knowing them
For 3 months is crazy and looking back I would do things differently. However i sm
Not very very stupid like one reply said . I should probably have dated longer but I had met his. family and I knew he was from a good background . I can only say I was caught up in a whirlwind and got swept along with it . It's been 5 years now - longer than some people who date longer .
I was also called a slut and a bad bad woman which is totally offensive . I consider my self to be a good mother and my children will always come first . However is it worth staying in a dead relationship for the sake of the children ?
I am confused hence meeting up with my ex - I regret ending things with him but then I wonder if I would have been truly
Happy with him- who knows ? I don't think there is just one person out there for everyone , I think there are a few - it is just meeting them at the right place at the right times.

if money is not a issue for you why do you see all kind of reason now that he lost his job?

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Thanks for comments . I know lots of people think getting married to someone after only knowing them
For 3 months is crazy and looking back I would do things differently. However i sm
Not very very stupid like one reply said . I should probably have dated longer but I had met his. family and I knew he was from a good background . I can only say I was caught up in a whirlwind and got swept along with it . It's been 5 years now - longer than some people who date longer .
I was also called a slut and a bad bad woman which is totally offensive . I consider my self to be a good mother and my children will always come first . However is it worth staying in a dead relationship for the sake of the children ?
I am confused hence meeting up with my ex - I regret ending things with him but then I wonder if I would have been truly
Happy with him- who knows ? I don't think there is just one person out there for everyone , I think there are a few - it is just meeting them at the right place at the right times.

So you explain yourself and justify why to yourself (it's no skin off our noses what you do) but lets point out some things to you (again) that you are not considering when you are making up your mind.

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i always thought of him and regretted ending it after only 5 months

Surely if you could marry one guy after knowing him for only three months, then you shouldn't regret not being with one who you actually got to know for 2 whole months longer. There is a reason why you broke up with him and if it wasn't because he didn't have enough money, then it must have been because your gut was telling you the he wasn't the right one for you. Why did you break up with him? No need to answer here, just ask yourself that question.

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I regret ending things with him but then I wonder if I would have been truly
Happy with him- who knows ?

Twice now you bring him into the equation when he shouldn't even be a part of whether or not you work it out with your husband or you leave him. As I said, you're pinning your hopes and security on one night of illicit ****ing. (Please work on your self-esteem as you let yourself become carried away over this) Do you honestly think you should even be considering this man when deciding if you should stay or go? Don't be a foolish school girl and base yours and your childrens well being on one night of oxytocen induced feelings based on sweet buggar all. Thats lust, not love. Once again your factoring a man you don't even know into your future. Stop acting like it's 1925 and you have not other options then to jump from one stranger to another because you're either afraid to be alone or you need his money.

If your children do come first, then you won't drag them into your dysfunctional emotional connections with (yet another) man you haven't taken the time to get to know.

Think about it.