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I wonder who screwed you over to be so pissed off and I'm hardly "pissed off" in the least.
No one has ever screwed me over... and I'm no where even near "pissed off." Just stating some facts, jack! I don't allow myself to be screwed over because I have enough sense to read red flag behaviour rather quickly and I distance myself from such fools rather quickly, before being emotionally invested. (no matter what kind of relationship ~ friendship, business, romantic) I've been happily married for 35 years... we've done something right to keep it happy all that time sans an hour or two here and there. Just because I think you know a lot of people that are codependent and afraid doesn't make me angry. And, I do think it's sad that one person knows so many people like that when they don't have to be if they'd work on themselves to be confident and with personal boundaries.
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Anyway, yes it *may* be sad, but some people just can't be alone. I won't talk for women, but a lot of men suffer a lot from confidence issues, and ultimately they become weaker for fearing of being weak.
Thanks for the warning. Women who enable men to continue to be weak by allowing them to keep one relationship while they "feel out the next one first" are'nt doing such men any favors. They are especially not doing themselves a favor by allowing themselves to be the other woman for even a minute, never mind weeks or months, god forbid, years.
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She titled this topic "I'm in love with him, but does he loves me?". She didn't titled it "should I fall in love with him?", we are passed that.
Loving someone is not enough, particularily when they are not free to give you all of themselves because they have chosen someone else prior to meeting you (the general you). Her title is irrelevent to the total jist of her situation.
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So I explained it *could* be possible he IS in love with her but not quite sure to take the "leap of faith" that means quitting your relationship and starting a new one with a woman half his age. Again, it's a possibility, no a fact. I could easily tell if I hanged around with the man, but I can't.
... and I explained why this is a poor way for her to judge whether or not she should allow herself to stoop so low as to continue on in this emotional affair only now through cyber means while he stays with the other woman.
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That's why I told her that, should she persuit this relationship, she must force him cuts ties with his current partner.
yes, we both agree with that. Only difference is that I explained why I thought she shouldn't allow his fear of being alone to be her's or anyone's guide on whether or not to pursue something with a man such as him. The other difference is I explain without accusing you of being one of these codependent men you describe while you assume that someone MUST have screwed me over just because I'm cautioning her not to be an enabler of a weak man.