I told him I wanted us to seperate and to give each other time and space to figure out what we wanted. Due to financial reasons, I could not move out so I moved into the spare room. ...Meanwhile, I began seeing the male colleague who had been flirting with me for months. ... But a few days before I was due to move out, I skidded on ice and had car crash (no other cars involved luckily) and while I was unharmed, I sadly had a miscarriage at 11 weeks pregnant. At the time, due to a combination of hormones, extreme emotions, confusion, exhaustion and parental pressure, my ex boyfriend convinced me to come back to him and give things another try, he promised that things would change. It's been three weeks since the miscarriage and I'm now in limbo. ... There's been no intimacy or affection between us, we are just like housemates. Meanwhile I've been thinking of my lover and missing him as he's been away looking after a farm for the last two weeks. I managed to visit him twice and we shared some beautiful moments togethor. ... Do I choose my ex, who appears to everyone else to be 'Prince Charming', nice house, nice car, good salary, well spoken, tall, handsome, socially confident, with many good points but essentially stubborn, argumentative,overweight, passionless and sexually unresponsive. But hey it would keep everyone else happy.... OR do I choose my new lover