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I'm not sure I understand your analogy; what does the "lid" represent?
You're the "pot" and your mate is the "lid"
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If you're asking what I'm doing to meet women, eh... I dunno. I mean, I'm in college (finishing up, actually), and I work part time in retail, so it's not as though I'm a total recluse that never encounters people at all. I just don't hit it off with anyone that way.
that's more than likely due to the negativity you exude and the fact that you're basically (due to attitude in general) rather closed off and unapproachable.
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The few times I have "hit it off" with a girl, she wasn't interested in dating me.
So, it's not like you're the only person in the world who has been rejected by someone they'd like to get to know better. Dating/scouting for dates and success is a numbers game and the more you try, the better the odds are you'll connect with a kindred spirt.
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I've also tried some online dating sites several times over the last few years, and I wrote to any girl that seemed the least bit interesting, but never got any responses.
Not one response? What was your introduction email like?
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Other than that, I just kind of go about my business, but I never meet anyone "serendipitously". I dunno... All the happy couples I know met at work, or at school, or through friends, or whatever, and I just wish something like that could happen for me. It just never does.
read the paragraph above about being unopen and negative.
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The thing about me is, this "online" me is not the same as "offline" me. "Offline" me is quite "normal"; I act upbeat and laid back, I'm nice and friendly to people, I try to get people to laugh, etc. In other words, offline, I'm not some fatalistic black hole of sadness, like I maybe come across as on forums like these. What you see here is the result of me bottling up all my unhappy, unpleasant thoughts, then pouring them out onto the Internet.
I'm sure if I spent more than an hour in your company it would be plain to see the negative vibe that you think you are hiding. Shit like that permeates out of your pores. Read The Secret to understand what I'm talking about. What you put out is what you will get back. Youre fake persona isn't cutting it.
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See, one major problem is, it's hard to be "positive" and "confident" when, in my whole life, I've never really been able to "catch a break". I understand that "life is hard", and all that jazz, but I've literally never "caught a break". It's hard to be positive when life has dealt you so many crappy "hands".
I think you and LR are one and the same people. You should read all of his threads and take some of the advice given to him that he stubbornly refuses to implement in order to improve his lot.
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If I could just "catch a break" once, get one nice little "win" in one aspect of my life, I think that would really turn things around for me. But it hasn't happened yet, and it doesn't look like I will be any time soon. Worst case scenario, though, I'm doing the whole "fake it til you make it" thing, right?
Read The Secret. You are pitching crap to the Universe and the Universe is throwing it back to you. If you don't agree with therapy, then at least do some reading that will likely help you with your negativity.