Originally Posted by whaywardj
First, spend some time considering yourself APART from your roles as a mother, wife, friend, lover, professional or whatever. You and your navel get together and have a few good conversations about who YOU are, want to be, want to represent, believe in...the whole ball of wax. Once you're sure you're clear on that...
Then, prioritize. If who you are says you should take more effort to make your marriage better, then you have to tell your friend to back off with the flowers and all and do everything else that logically follows from that decision. No long conversations on the phone. No charming emails. None of that. They just complicate you're being able to follow through on your decision.