Well, yeah. There's more than one great job out there too.Quote:
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Well, yeah. There's more than one great job out there too.Quote:
Originally Posted by mikedoug [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
Well I'm glad you feel that way searock.Quote:
Originally Posted by searock [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
I don't understand why girls don't share the pursuing burden equally. Relationships are hard enough as they are, purposely creating unnecessary barriers by acting lukewarm when you are in fact interested makes no sense. Why make it harder for the guy you are interested in?
No, I'd never expect that. I've always made it quite clear when I'm interested in a guy. If I'm keen, I'll make it very easy for you.Quote:
Originally Posted by mikedoug [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
To be honest, I'd get annoyed if a guy I've shown no interest in chases me. If I'm not showing interest, then I'm NOT INTERESTED.
Yes some do, but most girls will never pursue: probably along the lines of 20% pursue, 80% don't.Quote:
Originally Posted by HeartIsAching [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
So what would you do? Pursue the job, the guy, both or neither? You completely ignored the question I asked you.Quote:
Originally Posted by basilandthyme [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
Well what I mean is say you're more interested than him. He still wants to go on dates with you, but you are more keen of him, than he is keen of you. It is you, not him initiating phone calls, chatting, etc. Would you continue to pursue him? Cause this is what guys are faced with most of the time.Quote:
Originally Posted by basilandthyme [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
Yes, I have made this mistake in the past....doing all the legwork for a guy who wasn't that interested in me. However, I've learned the hard way that if they aren't showing equal interest, then you're wasting your time.Quote:
Originally Posted by mikedoug [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
I'd give the same advice to a man: If she's not showing equal interest, cut your losses and move on.
I'd have a go at both. But I wouldn't be desperate about getting either of them because I know there will be more opportunities.Quote:
Originally Posted by mikedoug [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
Well than I think we have a problem world.....cause most times the guy is pursuing/showing more interest at the beginningQuote:
Originally Posted by basilandthyme [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
Good for you :) It's nice to see a woman who feels that wayQuote:
Originally Posted by basilandthyme [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
Oh well, I guess you'll have to take that up with girls who play games and the boys who buy into it.Quote:
Originally Posted by mikedoug [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
Personally, I couldn't bothered with all the game playing.
Mate, I had amazing sex with my hubby on the day we met. If there's one thing you can't accuse me of, it's not showing interest ;)Quote:
Originally Posted by mikedoug [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
I know. I see you're in your mid 40s. Was there as much game playing back when you were dating? I fear for what my kids will have to some day go through, cause I'm sure the game playing will just continue to get worse and worse :(Quote:
Originally Posted by basilandthyme [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
A lot of girls are told since childhood they should be reserved and not aggressive to pursue guys. This is a gender issue. However, if the girl is willing to make the first move approach the dream guy, she will surprised the guy is not that difficult to approach the guy. she just need to initial the first move and let the guy know she is interested in knowing him, not chasing him.
Back in the 80's, I was always advised to play 'hard to get'. Though I always ignored the advice because I figured that if I played games, I might miss out on a great guy. But then again, you're talking with a woman who doesn't believe that the timing of a marriage proposal should all be on the man's terms.Quote:
Originally Posted by mikedoug [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
For what it's worth, it's not all girls playing hard to get these days. My 14yo daughter is very feminist and determined that she can do anything a boy can - so she will ask a boy out. Actually, she did ask out a boy who was in her class - apparently he was showing all the signs of being interested: Talking for ages, playing guitar together, similar interests. But he freaked and the friendship is now ruined. It's not just boys who are getting rejected.