Originally Posted by
Constructo Man
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You answered your own question here ^. When you got married you probably took a vow. Sadly, in this day and age, honesty is not valued. What did it mean to you when you promised,"Til death do us part?" The Bible explains the only cause for divorce is unfaithfulness. In my opinion if physical abuse is taking place then he is being unfaithful because being abusive is not part of honoring you as a wife. You should leave him if he is physically abusive. I consider pushing to be physical abuse. You didn't go into specifics about the "emotional abuse." The whole emotional abuse thing is subjective. It probably stems from both of you having issues with communication. Your own past and upbringing may play a role in this too. If your parents divorced at an early age then it is likely you view divorce as acceptable and a way out of unhappiness. If your depressed and you don't seek help for your depression then you could be blaming him for your own clinical issues and projecting your unhappiness on to him. Manipulation is an overly stated term. Most people are not used to being direct and they use manipulation to get what they want. This doesn't mean that being manipulative is right. This would be an excellent topic to address in couple's counseling with a professional in the room. Men usually do not like to talk about their feelings and go to counseling but he is willing to make this work. Are you?