Naw. It was an opportunity to put you down and repay the retarded girl for defending my honor against one of the Canadians in some thread forever ago. Two birds, one stone kind of thing. Unfortunately, I didn't do a very good job. Next time...
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Naw. It was an opportunity to put you down and repay the retarded girl for defending my honor against one of the Canadians in some thread forever ago. Two birds, one stone kind of thing. Unfortunately, I didn't do a very good job. Next time...
Wow I've had girlfriends like this. Always lying about their past. A ) they solve problems, by avoiding them. b) they have skeletons in the closet that they are ashamed of. C) they've forgotten that trust and honesty are core to healthy relationships because they've become so broken from their own.
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There is a saying...." A leopard never changes its spots".
When I date anyone I always give them a chance, even when I get the feeling that they may be a liar. If they tell lies I present an ultimatum. Persist with the dishonesty and I am gone.
Someone who really does love you will try their best to change their ways. If they do not, they, don't care about you and the best thing you can do is leave them alone. Stay with them at your own peril.
Women who sleep around have low self esteem. She was probably feeling terrible after her failed marriage (you also said he was a "bad boy" type, so maybe he wasn't so nice to her either?)
I am no stranger to lying to protect myself. I feel like she probably never thought in a million years that she would meet someone to make her feel that way again, and she went out and yeah, was a bit stupid and did things she probably shouldn't have done.
However, it's no excuse for her continuing to lie about it now. She might as well fess up to the rest of it, because I'm sure the actual acts don't bother you as much as the not knowing the whole story part.
I think you ought to confront her about it all. You can't marry her not knowing the whole truth, and she shouldn't want to marry you either having kept things from you.
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Originally Posted by cookies27 [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
So it seems you have all been busy since I last checked,
So....Cookies27 stated, I am not bothered by the acts as much as not knowing the whole story.....When someone lies and tells you that you shared all these intimate moments with you, and you find out later that, what she told you was fabricated to make you feel a certain way, that hurts......ALLOT ......can I find reasons to forgive and understand the reason for the lie?.... yes and no. Yes I understand, no women want s to divulge her past, I get that....but when we got together, I asked her, casually, "sooo....have you been dating since the split?" I even asked if she was with anyone when we first got together, something like "look I really like you, but if you're having fun dating and and flirting, and all that, I don't want to jam you up," Her response was, "no I have been on three horrible dates since the split and thats it" So for me I'm like "score!" I jump in the sack with her, she says I'm the first one, and alll her friends said "oh just wait till that first time with someone new after the divorce" She told me about this conversation with her friends, So of course I asked "SOOOOO how was it?" was it everything your friends said it would?.....she went on and on about how long it been since she had sex with anyone, and she was soooo glad it was me after all these years......and BLAH BLAH.......
So you can understand that the to find out later that it wasn't me at all it was 2 before me maybe more, and not knowing that whole story is really frustrating.........It's the mind set of a women that goes out and sleeps around just to sleep around, I would have understood one......but two in 4 months, and most likely more, it's the thought process I don't like, "IM DIVORCED IM GOING TO GO SLEEP WITH EVERY CUTE GUY I CAN FIND" I'm not sure that a women who thinks like that is a women I want to marry, it screams low self esteem, low self worth, and viewing sex like a handshake.....I didn't go out and sleep around after my divorce, I had kids, and work and things to do, and respect for myself....I could have......and there were plenty of opportunities.....i chose not to, and I thought she was on the same level as me when it came to that......so all this just kind of takes the wind out of your sails......Doesn't mean she a bad person, in fact, over the last two years I have come to know an amazing women.....and the way she is in life....her personality everything about her, is in line with me, and how I see things......EXCEPT for this....so here I am I meet the women of my dreams, the relationship is awesome, everything is great.....living with her day to day is so much fun.....and then there is THIS thing in the back of my head......
So I haven't talked to her about it yet.....I'm getting there
So I'm still thinking about it, it's still on my mind,
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What do you mean by "there was just something about the way I told the story" ??Quote:
Originally Posted by KingZ [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
you obviously think this woman is so "awesome" and the relation ship is so "amazing" and u dont plan on ending things. it seems like.you complain about her then defend her. just stay with her whatever. who cares. your life. just dont see your point posting on here.if your not even going to do anything about it.
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Well....no. The reason for my OP was to ask some women's opinions...on weather or not I'm being silly getting hung up on this.....and yes this is the only issue I have.....so. My post was to try to get some wen to comment...and see where they stand on it or if they have ever done anything like this. And just try to wade through it.....like I said this is a new thing for me never bothered me before. But forums are for advice right? So I listened to all the advice. I'm digesting it. And I'll make a decisio......if you're thinking I'm just gonna make some rash decision based on. "You should dump the slut" you would be wrong.... but I will keep you posted. I don't like that she did this. But it doesn't mean I don't like her. So relax. I'm getting there