Blackbone I showed your post to guy who been working on dating sites and here is what he had to say about it.Quote:
Originally Posted by Blackthorne [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
Here's the real deal with dating sites.
It depends on the site. Some sites allow or encourage automated "bots" to operate on them. It makes them look like there's a lot of traffic, that there are a lot of beautiful women on them, and that hook-ups will be easy. Some don't.
I'm fairly certain that I got pulled from the "Abuse" team at the company I worked at because I was too good at finding search terms that would find and kill those accounts... I got transferred to another department two days after I noticed a pattern and conducted a multi-level search that killed 20,000+ accounts. The day after that happened, that database search yielded zero results, even with the usual variation modifications, and the day after that I was put into the network monitoring team.
Yes, good-looking guys have a better chance. It's the way of the world - deal with it. We were required to have active account(s) on our sites, as well as accounts on competitors sites, and as I was an asshole in a bad relationship, I used them... I got some action from the sites. This isn't me bragging - I've heard it enough that I finally understood that it's true, I'm a damned good-looking guy. I won't even count my wife, she's biased... but when her (our) gay friend won't let me into the D&D game he's mastering because he's afraid that too many of the other players will hit on me, well, you get it. Definitely not bragging; frankly it's nothing I did, and age is a great looks-thief.
HOWEVER, looks aren't everything on the sites. If your profile is funny, witty, quirky etc. you'll get more activity. If your photos are flattering no matter your looks (oh the stories I could tell), you'll get more activity, and quite frankly, an upgraded account gets more activity than a free one.
Fill out your profile COMPLETELY. I can't stress this enough - women will look through everything. If your occupation and living situation is left blank, they'll assume that you're unemployed and living in your mom's basement. Include your preferences as far as women go, but don't be a misogynist about it. I got contacted several times simply because a woman looked at my profile and saw that she "fit the bill" as far as my preferences go.
When you message women, DO NOT concentrate on their looks. Don't even speak of their looks first thing. Concentrate on the things you like about their profile first and foremost - "hey, I notice that you like the music of Tool. I'm a huge Tool fan. What's your favorite song, and why?" or whatever. Saying "Hey, you're really hot and I want to **** you" will just get your shit deleted.