I have posted this same question in several forums around the net. My intention when posting wasn't to validate my opinion, but to gather suggestions of options. There is always more than one way to deal with any situation, and the same applies here.
Currently I am unsure how to proceed and I value peoples suggestions as to where i should go from here. I understand that the main opinion is to dump her, and thats a valid and possible option, but I would like to know all of my options before just simply ending a relationship that has essentially lasted the better part of my entire adult life to date.
Im sorry if it comes across as me defending her, because I am not trying to do that. I am just expanding on points as people post responses based on my current understanding of the situation. I dont think I have explained a lot of the information as clearly as I could have which makes it difficult for you to properly understand our exact situation. I know a lot of that doesnt matter in the grand scheme of things because she lied and cheated and ultimately thats what is important here, but currently I dont feel like that is completely fatal for our relationship, at least not yet, but I cant tell you why thats the case. That said, at the moment my feelings are subject to change on a daily basis so who knows.