Originally Posted by whaywardj
Ah, yes. For some strange reason, hadn't given him thought. But now that you compel it, let me offer this:
Nine times out of ten, if a man KNOWS you're leaving him and promises to change in any way he needs to make you stay, he WILL keep his promise. For a month or two or three. Or for as long as it takes for him to feel things are "back to normal." Then, since it's far easier to backslide than to change, he'll begin re-introducing his "old ways" back into matters, one little piece at a time. Each piece you again tolerate will be a tacit agreement to accept the next.
Just as accepting his promise is a tacit agreement to re-accept all of them.
Sadly, the only thing that MAY cause him to actually change IS losing you. You won't reap any reward from the new understanding the experience may give him. His next woman might. Instead of struggling with yourself to keep a hard heart, try taking the longer view that all you're doing by leaving him is making him a better man...for someone else.
I'd keep that journal handy.