Big deal, tho. I've been on the receiving end of those words w/a friend & all kinds of other subtle things. Simply put, I felt guilty for feelings that I should have been grateful for and flattered by. Problems occurred recisely because I *didn't* take the bull by the horns & get our shit aired out asap.Quote:
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Once that happened, there was some distance until we each got our emotions sorted out and boundaries in place. But now our friendship is stronger & more honest than ever.
If its a good relationship (this includes friendship), it can survive honesty with good intent. If it can't, let it go b/c its not worth the effort anyway.
My example is just for contrast. But I would agree that for most 'friendships', it wouldn't be worth the effort to go through this process. In my example, I have known this person for many years. I don't think I would go to this effort if this were a work acquaintance I am friendly with. I would just avoid this person.