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Originally Posted by bohemiandonut [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

Okay I'm going to try to make this succinct.

Beautiful girlfriend of... since september. Sex with her is fun. She is healthy and generally good-natured. But...

She often (especially during that time of the month) brings up our relationship and how we're "probably not going to get married" and whether we're too close to eachother/isolating ourselves/yada yada yada. I usually respond with "look we can both do whatever we want in this relationship and are both free to leave so what is the point of going on about this?" One time I made a great point of:

"In 10 years, will it really matter whether we completely figured out our relationship this evening?" - and that seemed to shut her up for a while.

But I have a tendency to get easily hurt by her. I have to continuously eat more and more protein so I can be more stoic and manly and it sucks. Like right now she is visiting with family, been gone for a few days. Before she left she was really hungover and I took care of her, did her laundry, and cleaned vomit out of her car. Super compassionate. Then yesterday (Mon) she's about to leave for camping with no phone reception till thursday. Sunday she said she would call that night or the next morning. She didn't. I call her at 12:30 no answer she calls back leaves msg. I call her back and this is how the convo went:

Her: ...Hello?
- Hey! What's going on?
- What?
- What's going on?
- Oh we're just about to go up. I should probably go. in background: ...you can talk!...
- Okay. Bye!
- Bye.

Then I slowly started to get really pissed off. So I call back and her phone was off. I left a msg saying that it made me feel really shitty that she wouldn't talk to me for a few seconds if she could have. Then I was really pissed off so I got extremely drunk and high and then wrote her a text message saying "Just kidding."

She won't get these messages until thursday. Now I don't know what to feel. Like a stupid emotional pussy ass mostly. Anyway I also had a dream the night before the phone call that we broke up and it was super realistic so I was upset even before all this went down.

Any thoughts on how I should clear all this up?

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its obvious that you and her need to talk. I'm sure you already figured this out.

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Originally Posted by bohemiandonut [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

But she just has a way of making me feel ignored or sad... fairly often, I guess. I really want to write this off as some bizarre fit of paranoia but I don't know if I can.

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This is more to do with you than you're taking responsibility for. Clearly, you're a sensitive guy, but that doesn't mean you have to run around like an open wound all the time. IMO, you need to work on your boundaries.

You can change this.

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Originally Posted by Gigabitch [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

This is more to do with you than you're taking responsibility for. Clearly, you're a sensitive guy, but that doesn't mean you have to run around like an open wound all the time. IMO, you need to work on your boundaries.

You can change this.

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That's what I'm hoping. Beat it into me, Gigabitch!

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Originally Posted by bohemiandonut [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

That's what I'm hoping. Beat it into me, Gigabitch!

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If it gets to the point where I'm actually beating you, I've crossed a line.

See how that works?

This is really ****ed up.

I just called with *67 to block my number to see if she is back in range. She was. She answered. I hung up.

****ing bitch.

Ow. You alright there, buddy? dont turn into a CRAZY person

I couldn't help it, I called as myself. She didn't answer. Twice.

I am very upset.

ah donut boy i'm sorry. **** her. there's a gazillion other fish in the sea for you.

give her a year and she'll be crying to come back.

I am such a dumbass.

All is well, except now I feel like I have to break up with her just in order to salvage my own concept of reality.

She called around 8:18. I heard the phone ring ONCE and then saw the connection end so I thought she had just chickened out. That pissed me off some more. Then I check my phone like an hour later and see there's a message. Huh, that's weird...

Her message is her in a sweet tone apologizing for being so abrupt on monday, and for not getting back to me sooner as she had had a long car ride home.

I feel like I need some serious mental help. I guess it was all just a bad dream.

Literally.

Still, have "the talk" next time she wants to.

And yet, now looking back on it, **** THAT i'm still mad.

As much as I hate using this term in relationships: Total disrespect.

Bitch needs to wise up.

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Originally Posted by bohemiandonut [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

And yet, now looking back on it, **** THAT i'm still mad.

As much as I hate using this term in relationships: Total disrespect.

Bitch needs to wise up.

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Bitch needs to leave.

Stand up for yourself.

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Originally Posted by bohemiandonut [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

Bitch needs to wise up.

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Word.


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How do you know she isn't just telling you what you want to hear so you wont leave?

Little note on women. They want what they want when they want it and what they want changes from day to day. Trust me I'm speaking from my own experiences as a woman.

You guys need to really talk about what you want out of the relationship.

Gee how about this:

MUTUAL KINDNESS?

Isn't that what we want out of every relationship?

We're ****ing 20.