Pregnant by ex bf & don't know what to do

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Originally Posted by chloe80 [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

That is correct Henry. Neither guy used a condom when they had sex with me.

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Always good to have secondary birth control as a back up. Not to mention the danger of HIV/HPV etc.

Regardless (whomever the father is) its best to have good relationships with him even if you have no plans to be together. It could get pretty ugly if you dont.

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Originally Posted by chloe80 [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

Cam,

I think you may have the guys backwards in my story. I am back with my ex, engaged to him. He has NO IDEA that the baby could be someone else's and will be irate if he finds out. He could be irate enough to leave me and I have no idea what my parents will do. The guy I was in a relationship at the time is the one that wants me to have the paternity test, in fact he is even considering filing a paternity case against me in court. If he does that I will be so stressed out that it will be obvious to those around me that something is bad wrong. I don't know what to do. Timeline wise this could be either guy's baby but I feel like it has to be the ex's (the guy I'm now engaged to) bc he is the only one that ever finished in me. If the guy I was in a relationship with goes through with this paternity test paperwork things could get very ugly for me.

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One of the new ironies of modern medicine. Free and easy sex was supposed to liberate the female of the species...she could now mate (or at least "practice" mating) with anyone she wanted without repercussions.

Now, it appears that opening one's legs has closed many doors in life.

I think that your decision on what to do now should focus less on "what will happen to me" (repercussions for you) and focus a lot more on "what's good for the child" (assuming that you decide not to have an LT abortion).

At the end of the day, the child will be born, will be raised, will live out a full natural existence with you as its mother (ALWAYS). So, your choice now is not which guy is better for you. Its about which guy will be a better father for that child. If the current guy would be pissed as hell, then I'm guessing he won't be such a good father...might even harm the child.

Remember: a good father is one who loves the mother will all his heart...and her offspring, no matter who is the genetic father.

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Originally Posted by chloe80 [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

That is correct Henry. Neither guy used a condom when they had sex with me.

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No protection? Well, what you are saying is, "I have no plans in life...what is brought in on the wings of circumstance are better than whatever existence I currently enjoy."

That's a pathetic attitude for a human being. Millions of years of evolution brought you to the world. With a brain. With consciousness. With the capacity to reason and to make choices.

You know, not even single celled organisms allow chance to dictate their future.

I think only pollen and seeds blow with the wind...and dust. Then again, they are sentient beings...just objects.

Maybe that's what you subconsciously want. To be an object.

"...not sentient beings...", that's how it should read (a typo)