She screwed up big time 2 weeks before school let out. We get home one night and theres been someone visiting facebook. Neither him nor I have a facebook, and when you login, it saves your details, we don't use email addresses that are provacative. She's 12, I do not believe she should be on a social networking site with a name like the one she was using. She lied about it, we caught her in that lie when we found out she had more than 1 facebook account. We do not allow the children on sites like that. This turned into a 2 hour lie-fest. She got grounded again, HE decided she would work at our neighbors farm shoveling poo or whatever they had for her to do. She went to her moms right away, has not "served" out her punishment. Moms mad shes grounded all the time. If she would act right this wouldn't happen.
I'm not trying to sound like a drill sergeant. I believe children should behave in a certain way, yea they will be kids and mishaps happen, but between March till now this year all she has done is lie to try to get out of things.
She has a therapist. He takes them both to her, the mom doesn't like it, says since this therapist knows everything the mom has done of course the therapist will side with him or the kids. She doesn't want the therapist to know why these things are happening.
We have tried other discipline ideas, nothing works.