Oh good grief.
Rape, seriously?
My wife gets pretty ticked off if I get touchy when she's sleeping, and it actually kinda ticks me off. And yes, I do make the attempts to behave, which end up getting me in shit anyways.
I don't get nice uninterupted sleeps all the time. She wakes me up all the time for shit in the middle of the night, and while I'm not usually impressed or happy about it, I sure as hell don't go off on some silly claim of abuse.
Men get 'used' all the time by their women.
If you can't handle your BF fondling you, or trying to have sex with you, then maybe you're not ready for a sexual relationship.