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confused&single
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So sorry to hear that you are going through this. I just got out of a three and a half year relationship last week. It was mutually agreed upon, but i think in retrospective he knew for a while he needed out but couldn't bring himself to do it. It's the hardest damn thing in the world to not talk to him, but I know that as the days tick on that eventually I'll get better. You just have to believe that. Occupy yourself with something else. I actually bought a journal so when I feel like calling or texting him, I've been writing in there. Sometimes it helps, sometimes it just makes me start crying again. But at least its good to get the emotions out of you and not making it harder on yourself by calling. It doesn't do any good and it only reopens the gaping hole in your heart. Trust me...I just experienced the gaping hole last night. It felt like we broke up all over again and the whole time we were talking I was just pissed at myself that I didn't have enough will power to not talk to him. Unfortunately heart break is a part of life. Everyone at one point or another will experience it. In a few months or a year you'll be your old self and a better person because of it. I noticed that after the decision was made between us, while I was sad, the knot that I've been holding onto for the past year (the main issue was him not knowing what he wanted, so I was caring around a worry that there was an expiration date on our relationship) melted away. It was a freeing feeling and I finally knew how to felt. Take a deep breath...turn off your phone..hell give it to someone during your vulnerable times....and just know that this was the right decision for now. That's all you really can do. So sorry you are going through this...i completely feel your pain. "hugs"