But the thing is everybody knows where they are wrong. Nobody needs to be told that again and again. The hard thing is to make things right. By being told how wrong I am (which triggers a lot in me btw because that's all I got to hear when I was young and believe me even years of therapy haven't really helped me to get rid of that completely) I feel bad, I feel weak, I feel I have failed again. By reading nice and encouraging words I get the feeling that perhaps I am not that bad after all, perhaps there is a chance for me to get over all this and have a better life...