What should I tell my boyfriend ?

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Originally Posted by NotATalker [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

No, it's their kid, She's not married, In fact she is still in love with him head over feet and I guess she will do anything to seperate us and well, what can I tell, it's working.
I believe I have every right to not fell like the other woman that he makes me feel all the time - because this is how it makes me feel. and it's horrible... I dont know if any of you were in the same or similar situation, but it's so not easy, especially when you love someone but you feel like you need to let it go becuase of things from the past.
If you've been in this kind of situation or you can try to put yourselves in my shoes, then you will know what I'm talking about...

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No one said it would be easy for you to leave this guy when you think your in love with him but you have to look at the big picture. You've broken up with him off and on which right there tells you that this guy is not meant to be with you as your LIFE partner. He's is not life-partner material. Let her have him and after you heal you can go and look for a good man who would want to support his child with love as well as financially. Find a guy who doesn't have a kid already because you're too immature to handle one with an ex partner and a kid.

So, I'd assume his ex is underage? I can't think of any other reason somebody would completely turn their back on their kid...not that it would be a good reason or anything. I agree, if he'd make some sort of effort, i'm sure this ex would back off. The ex probably just wants the kid to grow up with a relationship with his/her father.

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Originally Posted by Wakeup [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

No one said it would be easy for you to leave this guy when you think your in love with him but you have to look at the big picture. You've broken up with him off and on which right there tells you that this guy is not meant to be with you as your LIFE partner. He's is not life-partner material. Let her have him and after you heal you can go and look for a good man who would want to support his child with love as well as financially. Find a guy who doesn't have a kid already because you're too immature to handle one with an ex partner and a kid.

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You probably meant to say that im waaay to mature for both of them or for being in this "anything but-normal" relationship.
And "let her have him" ?!?! ok.. I dont really care, after im walking away the can do whatever, HOWEVER - not while Im still in the picture... it's pretty insulting, dont you think ?
but anyways, its hard to judge untill youre in someone else's shoes. believe me - I know ! cuz Id probably say the same things that people here sayin, but not from my prespective. not here. not now.

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Originally Posted by Evo1114 [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

So, I'd assume his ex is underage? I can't think of any other reason somebody would completely turn their back on their kid...not that it would be a good reason or anything. I agree, if he'd make some sort of effort, i'm sure this ex would back off. The ex probably just wants the kid to grow up with a relationship with his/her father.

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No, shes not underage. why would you think that ?!
And If he'd only make some sort of effort... but nothin... cuz he can/could change it, or make it better.
I even suggested him to go see the kid, but he doesnt want to. so he really needs to decide what and who is it that he wants. and by being 100% passive about it - I think he already made up his mind, and I need to do the same... :/

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not while Im still in the picture... it's pretty insulting, dont you think ?

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No I don't think it is at all. This is NOT about you and your jealousy. This is about a single mother who would like her babydaddy to pay attention to his child. If you don't like it then hurry up with that decision making and get yourself away from it.

Look after yourself and quit trying to control him cause he isn't caring about what you think. (yet another red flag)

GF its time for you to grow up. You knew this was part of the package deal when you decided to be with him. You should be ashamed of your self for being so narrow minded. For once put yourself in the shoes of the ex. Wouldn't you feel distraught that you and your child was being ignored? If he has nothing to do with his daughter then that says a lot about what kind of person her really is. He should at least be a part of that little girl's life and just lay some ground rules with the ex about contacting him. This girl is not the anti-christ out to destroy your relationship....you are having no problem doing that yourself with your jealousy.


Maybe if you were a little more sensitive to her situation you would be supportive and maybe talk to him about making this situation fair for everyone. I bet money on it the texts will stop.