Okay so i didn't expect such a long discussion to have taken place by the time I'd check back.....
So, in order of appearance
Re: being myself so many have mentioned. there's a few things that can be changed without warping oneself at all.
2CAM, I am not going to take personally anything you said, but I dislike the statement that "if i attract old men i should be with them". i shouldn't do anything to anyone, i am the only person i owe anything in this world and i only exist for my pleasure not anyone else's, therefore there's no point in getting laid with ugly old body owners, this is basically all. old men should sleep with old women whose breasts sag, because otherwise they will get mad at the whole world at having no sex life, so someone should handle that age group. as for your girlfriend, well, this is between you and her....