Should you tell a girl youre self conscious of your body?

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Originally Posted by Asip4u [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

She is 18 and as he said (and i mostly agree with that) those girls are more picky how guys look so it could have been both of those things that ruined it. I guess we won't really know.

I also now keep wondering with his post if she maybe just wanted a guy to hang out with(friend and all). The post mostly talks about him not liking his body. Other then her saying that he's cute there's not much more info...so it's a lot of assuming by both us and him..no? What type of conversations they usually have is important to know and there's noting about that. If that's the case then that point where he says something about not caring about being with a woman who cares about looks..She was probably..What? this guy thinks i'm into him?..Again, it would have been nice to know what kind of a relationship they had online to see whether it was more then friendly stuff going on. A lot of these hot, young girls are pretty stupid so they don't realize when they're leading guys on. They'll show you their hot pics and stuff but think not much of you and drop you on later (just for some attention and all).

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well we asked eachother if we were both single and she was the one to ask first if i wanted to hangout. btw, she gave me her number pretty early when we met eachother. we were both interested because we were both italian and going to the same school in august. and she sent some pretty sexy pics i.e. bikini and stuff. alot of ppl on here talk about how little things a guy can say can really turn off a woman. but shes not a woman, shes 18, i feel like younger girls dont look into that stuff as much at that age. but idk, i could be wrong

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Originally Posted by TeeJay19 [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

Hmmm... 18, yeah she may just be shallow.

I don't know, I think it was a date. People generally don't go online to make friends, especially when they're talking to a member of the opposite sex. It sounded like she was interested in him to start. The part where he says something about not wanting to be with women who care about looks may have made it seem like he was getting ahead of himself. She may have thought "What are you talking about? We're not together yet." Or she may have been put off because she's a shallow 18 year old who cares about looks haha.

Anyways nukl92, don't dwell on it too much. Just learn from this experience and go meet someone else. And stop being so self conscious. Either accept how you look or go to the gym and get in shape. Because when you find a girl who really likes you there's going to come a point where she's going to want to see you with your shirt off ;)

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ya i feel like it was a date. and i feel like maybe she thought i was getting on her case because she really wanted a pic with more of me in it.

and no, i wont dwell. and im self conscious about it, but it doesnt really affect me that much. i get girls with the smile and my genuine personality. ive just never been pressured to show off my body because when a girl is interested in me, they can obviously see im not a gym rat, but theyre still interested and dont expect much in that department. i get girls and r happy with my success, i was never presented with a situation like this before. so ur right, i need to learn from this experience and move on. tbh, she was litreally model material, probly the most beautiful girl from the neck down thats taken interest in me. but shes not the only girl in my life, so its not that big a deal. i just wanna at leasst keep contact so i can invite her to my parties when we go back to school to get some good looking girls there

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Originally Posted by smackie9 [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

I was an 18 year old girl once and looks to some extent are esential but not as much as it is to guys. You are being too critical of yourself. She is already emotionally attached to you so you are way ahead of the game.......don't know why you need to be posting here.

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well it kinda already went south lol. i gave her the pic, she said not bad and see, it wasnt that hard! but after that the convo went down hill and i started getting one word answers. so i went wrong somewhere. but ill just back off and see of she texts me, if not ill just give it a few days and text her again

if ever a thread needed pics, its this one. fascinating stuff

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Originally Posted by iamaninnocentma [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

if ever a thread needed pics, its this one. fascinating stuff

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i second that

uhhhh, y does it need pics? lol

i cant speak for sonrisa, but i wouldnt mind seeing a hot italian girl in a bikini. it might even help you get over her, like a little revenge on her for being so superficial. i dont get out much and my mom has blocked all my porn sites on the internet. fascist she is.

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Originally Posted by iamaninnocentma [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

i cant speak for sonrisa, but i wouldnt mind seeing a hot italian girl in a bikini. it might even help you get over her, like a little revenge on her for being so superficial. i dont get out much and my mom has blocked all my porn sites on the internet. fascist she is.

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lmao hahahaha. id love to help u out, but its still not to do that to ppl

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Originally Posted by iamaninnocentma [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

i cant speak for sonrisa, but i wouldnt mind seeing a hot italian girl in a bikini. it might even help you get over her, like a little revenge on her for being so superficial. i dont get out much and my mom has blocked all my porn sites on the internet. fascist she is.

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ha, i call bullshit

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Originally Posted by nukl92 [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

well it kinda already went south lol. i gave her the pic, she said not bad and see, it wasnt that hard! but after that the convo went down hill and i started getting one word answers. so i went wrong somewhere. but ill just back off and see of she texts me, if not ill just give it a few days and text her again

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Internet dating is tough....in fact dating sucks all together lol. Life is never without it's challenges, so don't let this one put a damper on your quest. Everyone knows rejection is just part of dating, so if you ask 100 girls out there has to be at least one out of the bunch that will say yes......keep looking. Tip: never invest your time on just one girl, work your time with as many as you can.

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Originally Posted by smackie9 [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

Internet dating is tough....in fact dating sucks all together lol. Life is never without it's challenges, so don't let this one put a damper on your quest. Everyone knows rejection is just part of dating, so if you ask 100 girls out there has to be at least one out of the bunch that will say yes......keep looking. Tip: never invest your time on just one girl, work your time with as many as you can.

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Statistically, out of the 100 girls you ask, 40 will be married, 35 will have boyfriends, 10 will be lesbians, 10 will have some form of mental illness, and 4 will have little moostaches, so if the remaining one is a bitch, youre fckd basically.

... bahahhahahaha..

Hey with one bitch you still might be able to f uck at least.

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Originally Posted by smackie9 [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

Internet dating is tough....in fact dating sucks all together lol. Life is never without it's challenges, so don't let this one put a damper on your quest. Everyone knows rejection is just part of dating, so if you ask 100 girls out there has to be at least one out of the bunch that will say yes......keep looking. Tip: never invest your time on just one girl, work your time with as many as you can.

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Oh no, shes not putting a damper on it at all. that formula is so very true lol. and thats my number one rule, i always have more than 1 girl im interested in or going after. my female friends actually call me out on it and think im a not so mice guy for doing it. but i feel like im just gonna get screwed over, especially in college since girls dont know what they want. and i use it as my self defense mechanism, so when something goes wrong with a girl, i have another one to take my mind off it. that might sound like i use women, but thats just easiest for me

Ya girls are stupid that way.....expecting a guy to be committed to them the minute they meet and show an interest. Their brains are stuck on what they learned when daddy read them Cinderella and Snow White. And no you are not using them, you are socializing with them. Using someone is taking advantage of someone for your own self gratification, you are just looking for a gf. Actually girls (a large percent, not all ) are the ones who take advantage of guys by friends zoning them without telling them. Now that sucks and I bet some of your friends are guilty of doing that.