Originally Posted by
Hopelessheart
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I really think its a little of both...I tried talking to her over the last 2 weeks, I saw her twice during this period, once on a Saturday for a few hours & another time for about an hour because I needed to pick up my car. One night she blew me off by saying she was tired & did not want to come over to my place stating she was tired, I thought nothing of it. Until she was busy the whole next week, but it wasn't just projects, she was out with friends bar hopping. I do not care if that is what she wants to do but over the course of the last three weeks, she is simply not making any effort or time for me. As far as talking every day, she never complained & seemed to like that I took an interest in her. I didn't think I was smothering at all because sometimes we wouldn't talk that much through the day.
I do think she has someone else she may be seeing as well, that I didn't know about until a few days ago. There is a new guy on her Facebook that comments & likes everything she posts about no more than 5 mins after she posts it. No I was not fb stalking but when I'd check my fb and saw posts from her, I saw his name always there.
She asked to maybe go back to taking it slow & I agreed. I asked about dating others (I cannot handle this) & she said it should not be set in stone to not date other people, as she did not want the title of bf/gf or relationship, as it's too heavy for her
Yes she wants more time for projects she has but it just seems like she is over the relationship & me. I felt like any suggestion I had fell on def ears and after every phone conversation she would say her & I were fine. Obviously we weren't. I did tell her the last time I talked to her to work out her issues & projects, that when she was done I'd be there & she nearly cried. She also said that she wants to work herself to the point of exhaustion & be alone, I get it she is done with the relationship, I tried harder to work things out with her than anyone else. Ever.
So as it stands right now I think I have exhausted all of my options & NC is best. I can have a clear head, knowing I gave my best shot. I love her like no other before & it hurts to let go but it's the chance I have to take. I do not want this at all. I hate feeling this way actually. Wanting something you can't have is awful. I would love for everything to be ok, but I feel chances of that are next to none now & I'm just trying to get back to me & focus on life. If it was meant to be, it will be.
4blossoms thanks for the different perspective on my situation! ��