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Living well is the best revenge.
In a perfect world, everyone would think like you (and me, I agree with the above). However, sadly, what most people think when they come across a guy that sleeps around a lot is "wow, he's cool" and what they think when they come across a girl that does the same thing is "wow, she's slutty". I'm sorry, but it's simply what happens. So yes, there is a double standard.Quote:
There's no double standard. If you're drunk and hooking up with the first person that talks to you every Friday night, that behavior is "slutty," no matter if you're a man or a woman.
Searock, I think you watch too much tv. How often in real life do you hear someone compliment someone on how much ass they get?
Just my humble opinion. He cheated, that was wrong. You spent 4 months being vengeful and plotting your childish revenge rather than being the better person and walking away. To me anyway, based on your childish ways, it sounds like he will probably look back to this birthday as the one where he got the best gift ever- you dumping him before he wasted any more of his life with you.
To me it looks like he will probably look back on his birthday and say how come karma keeps ****ing with me? :D
All that's left now is for him to feel the pain of someone cheating on him and he's have repaid.
lol ive never heard anyone say that about a player. they usually get laughed at or called secretly gay or people shake their heads and called sleaze bags. where i come from, men dont respect men like that-they actually dont trust them and keep their own gfs as far away from them as they can.Quote:
Originally Posted by searock [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
i know one guy who brags about his conquests all the time (even though ive never seen him with a girl). his excuse for not settling down and having a GF is that hes "too fussy". all his friends call him gay behind his back
I have to agree with Michelle. Perhaps it's a cultural thing? Guys who sleep around get little respect from other men or women here.Quote:
Originally Posted by michelle23 [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
Every day or almost every day.Quote:
Originally Posted by BackUpOrGetStng [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
I guess it is a cultural thing then. However, I do think a lot of people everywhere in western societies admire players. I mean, there would be no such thing as "PUA artistry" and all that crap, if not for a large amount of people who think it's cool and admirable to be like that.
Wow, you hear it that frequently? I don't think I've heard such talk since I was in high school, 30 years ago.Quote:
Originally Posted by searock [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
Yeah... unfortunately in my country a LOT of guys are "macho" types and see women as objects. The media portrays women as objects to be judged as cattle by men and used by men. Maybe that's why some people here see my views on sexism to be a bit exaggerated... it's actually that bad where I live. Oh well - at least there is hope :-).
I get the sense there is a part of you that thinks it was wrong.Quote:
Originally Posted by Kusheriere [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
Being cheated on is one of the most gut wrenching feelings, it takes a complete stab at your sense of self-worth and confidence. I wont lie, revenge has been a great temptation of mine. but on the other hand, it takes so much more energy and time. He didn't deserve 4 more months.
I hope it gave you closure, but I have a niggling feeling not as much as you had hoped for.
Nonetheless you better off without him.
I don't know anyone who thinks a slutty man is admirable; if anything, they run in the opposite direction if they find out a potential interest has a reputation of sleeping around. It shows they're easy and not good relationship material. Maybe his buddies might think it's 'cool' but unless he's dating his male friends, it doesn't matter.
It does matter in the sense that everyone (both male and female) thinks women who sleep around a lot are despicable, whereas only some women and some men think that men who sleep around a lot are, and some other men actually admire those guys and want to be like them. Socially, it's much more acceptable to be a "player" than to be a "slut".Quote:
Originally Posted by TablesandChairs [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
Congratulations, you're a certified B.I.T.C.H. now ;) no offence intendedQuote:
Originally Posted by Kusheriere [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
This is a bit too much... I mean what exactly did you gain from doing all this.. Well you did use him a lot.