No here knows me so it's like whatever. I know the situation and I know that I'm not in the wrong. There is a difference between giving honest advice and just being a asshole. If some of you are annoyed, then just participate in another thread. Blaming me? I didn't do anything wrong except have a lapse of judgment. It's over in my eyes because I still waited for him to get his shit together. And from the beginning, he made it seem like he wanted a future with me. I should have listened to my instincts and red flags, I suppose but I did care about him. I never thought he would hurt me. Even when I got ready at his place,he said I took too long and that he will have to get use to it. Which is one way he acted like I would be in his future. So, of course I would emotionally invest myself.
First of all, his brother was sick in his country, not in America. His family lives in a Islam country so yeah. Selfish? Again, keep ASSuming. I didn't expect him to change his 'self' for me. I accepted him for who he was.
And yes, this doesn't make sense. Nothing adds up and I don't even know who he is, who he was. I accept that he is a lying piece of shit. Maybe he's being "honest" now but he should have told me from the jump. I would never toy with someone's emotions, I have been in a position to do it but why would I? It's not right.