To messed up and getting worse
The relationship between a guy and a call girl is founded on deception. Yes it is mutually beneficial and in essence the sugar baby or escort is actually far more honest as this is a means to an end for her and for the guy it is a way of conveniently getting his rocks off for a few bucks behind his wife's back. There can be no possible way that becoming emotionally attached to a hooker or sugar baby or call girl or whatever you want to call it is any good. It is moronic. Does it happen? Of course....how could it not. Guys are essentially stupid when it comes to being sweet talked and if she is a great looker and a great provider, the whole package just suckers him in. You are not going to get sex like that from your wife and you are not going to look up at your wife while you are banging her and see a perfect body. Doesn't happen as you get older. But, you have to keep perspective on this and groove on the emotional intimacy with your wife vrs. the superficial physical attractiveness of your paid bitch. It you can't separate out the two, then you shouldn't be playing the game.
Putting this in perspective
Okay, some of the remarks here have been right on. Others have been hostile coming from women who are just angry at a guy like myself for straying from his wife. Yet it happens. I am absolute moronic for falling for someone I was paying as a sugar baby in order to just have a casual sensual relationship. Yet, it happened and it did so for many reasons. Clearly whoever said that it filled a void in my life was right and I am fortunate to have the financial resources to pay for an intensely beautiful and skilled woman. Having never done this before, I was not aware of the capability that a provider has to psychologically manipulate their "john" to addict them and draw them in. I mistook this for natural affection so I am naive and stupid but I imagine I am not the first or ten millionth guy that this has happened to. Am I still infatuated with her. You bet but I am letting realism sink in and fortunately can now "split" my self into a rational being from the needy emotionally immature fool that was so led astray. I can actually be with her and groove on incredible all night sex which for a guy in his late forties is a great treat. I have recently found out that she has slept with dozens of professional athletes, politicians and was a paid escort to a fortune 500 CEO for two years who ended up also falling in love and proposing to her. So I am not crazy, just a slave to my dick.
Is a guy craving a hooker "love"
Why not. Love is not an absolute state that is the same for all people like, say the perception of a chair (assuming that we all perceive this the same way which is philosophically debatable). Love is ultimately irrational, meaning that it is not prone to primarily influence by focused mindfullness. I think that if a guy is overwhelmed with erotic feeling by a hooker and for what ever reason needs to keep that going, it is a love-equivalent. It is not "noble" love in the sense of Redford-Streisand in "The Way We Were". But, it has entered his limbic system and imbalanced his psyche to the point where he seeks it over and over, needs it, wants it, craves it against his better judgement. What else would you call it?